The Modern Dating Dilemma: Anger, Resentment, and the Missing Dialogue
There’s a lot of anger in dating right now. A lot of jadedness. A lot of paranoia. Resentment, too. And honestly? I get it.
People are exhausted. The never-ending cycle of swiping, ghosting, mismatched intentions, and unspoken expectations has left so many disillusioned with the process. The modern dating landscape has become a battlefield of assumptions, and the “solutions” floating around—whether it’s playing the numbers game, following rigid dating rules, or just “manifesting” the right person—feel like empty air. They don’t actually address the core issue.
Because at the heart of all this frustration is one simple thing: miscommunication.
We’re All Guessing Instead of Talking
Most of the anger in dating stems from unmet expectations and assumptions about the other person’s behavior. Why didn’t they text back? Were they ever really interested? Are they just playing games? And on the other side: Did I say something wrong? Did I come on too strong? Are they pulling away because of me?
It’s a guessing game that no one wants to play, yet most people don’t know how to escape.
Enter matchmaking.
Why Matchmaking Cuts Through the Noise
One of the reasons I feel so confident about my work as a matchmaker is because I get to do something that’s nearly impossible in modern dating: I give people real answers.
When you date through a matchmaker, you’re not left in the dark. There’s a third person in the equation who isn’t emotionally involved, someone who can provide clarity on what went wrong (or right) without bias. If a date didn’t lead to a second, I can tell you why. If someone was interested but hesitant, I can explain their reasoning. Instead of assuming the worst or internalizing rejection, you get to understand the situation objectively.
This removes so much of the unnecessary pain in dating. Instead of spiraling into jadedness or resentment, you can approach dating with actual knowledge—knowledge that fosters better communication, deeper self-awareness, and a more intentional approach to relationships.
Breaking Down Barriers, One Honest Conversation at a Time
The work that I and other matchmakers do is not just about setting people up—it’s about breaking down communication barriers. It’s about facilitating conversations that wouldn’t normally happen in today’s dating culture.
When people are willing to listen—to really hear how their words and actions impact someone else—it changes everything. The walls of paranoia and resentment come down. The confusion fades. And people start dating with a sense of clarity and confidence instead of frustration and fatigue.
Because at the end of the day, most dating struggles don’t come from a lack of “good options” or a supposed crisis in modern romance. They come from a lack of actual dialogue. And that’s something we can fix—if we’re willing to.
