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Met By Nick · Our Assessments

Understanding you
is how we find your person.

Before we make a single introduction, we invest in something most matchmakers skip entirely — a deep, evidence-based understanding of who you are in relationships.

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Why assessments

Chemistry is common.
Compatibility is rare.

Most people can feel a spark. What's harder to find is someone whose attachment patterns, conflict responses, and relational needs genuinely align with yours — not just on paper, but in the quiet moments when relationships are actually tested.

Our assessment suite gives us — and you — the insight to make introductions that go beyond surface-level connection.

The approach

Three clinically validated
frameworks.

We use three of the most rigorously validated tools available in relationship science — one mapping how you bond, one mapping how you navigate conflict, and one revealing who you are at the level of core personality. Together they form a profile of you that no questionnaire about hobbies and height ever could.

This is the foundation every match we make is built on.

Assessment One·  Attachment Style

The ASQ-SF —
How you bond.

The Attachment Style Questionnaire – Short Form (ASQ-SF) is one of the most psychometrically sound attachment measures available (Pollard et al., 2023). It maps your attachment profile across two core dimensions and five detailed subscales — not as a fixed label, but as a nuanced spectrum of how you connect with the people who matter to you.

Unlike categorical personality tests, the ASQ-SF recognises that attachment is dimensional. You don't simply "have" an attachment style — you sit somewhere along a continuum, and understanding exactly where changes how you date.

"Attachment patterns are significantly associated with depression, anxiety, personality, and interpersonal difficulties — making assessment not just interesting, but actionable."

The five dimensions

Each subscale reveals a specific layer of how you relate:

Comfort with Closeness

How you respond as emotional and psychological intimacy deepens in a relationship.

Relationship Priority

Where relationships genuinely sit in the hierarchy of your life and attention.

Preoccupation

Whether your focus on relationships tends toward healthy engagement or anxious over-monitoring.

Need for Approval

The degree to which you rely on a partner's validation to feel safe and secure.

Interpersonal Confidence

Your baseline sense of security when entering and deepening new connections.

The two primary patterns

All five dimensions sit within two overarching attachment orientations:

Dimension One

Anxious Attachment

Hyperactivating strategies — pursuing connection intensely, often at cost to yourself.

  • Excessive need for reassurance
  • Fear of abandonment drives decisions
  • Preoccupation with relationship status
  • Approval-seeking as default mode

Dimension Two

Avoidant Attachment

Deactivating strategies — protecting yourself by keeping others at distance.

  • Discomfort with emotional closeness
  • Defensive self-reliance
  • Relationships feel secondary
  • Withdrawal when intimacy deepens
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The evidence

Not a personality quiz.
A clinical-grade tool.

The ASQ-SF was identified in a comprehensive systematic review as one of the most robust and psychometrically sound measures available for attachment assessment (Pollard et al., 2023). Its deliberately broad language extends beyond romantic relationships, making it valid across all interpersonal contexts — including therapeutic relationships, family dynamics, and peer interactions (Karantzas et al., 2010; Mikulincer & Shaver, 2016).

Attachment research consistently shows that your patterns directly influence emotion regulation, interpersonal schemas, and how you seek or avoid support — the mechanisms that determine whether a relationship thrives or stalls (Malik et al., 2015).

2
Core dimensions
measured
5
Detailed subscales
for precision
Peer
Reviewed &
clinically validated
All
Relationship types
assessed
Assessment Two·  Conflict Style

The Conflict Management
Assessment — How you cope.

Every relationship will face friction. The question isn't whether conflict will arise — it's whether you and your partner have the tools to move through it without fracturing what you've built. Based on the Thomas-Kilmann Model and adapted by Reginald Adkins, Ph.D. (Elemental Truths), this assessment identifies your dominant conflict style across five evidence-based dimensions.

Your matchmaker uses this to identify not just who you're compatible with — but whose conflict approach complements rather than collides with yours.

Competing

Assertive and goal-driven. Prioritises position over relationship. Most effective when decisive action is required or certainty is high.

Best used when

A quick decision is critical, or when you are certain of the right course of action.

Collaborating

Assertive and cooperative in equal measure. Treats conflict as an opportunity. Depends on a high degree of mutual trust.

Best used when

Everyone's concerns matter equally and there is genuine trust between all parties.

Avoiding

Steps back to gain perspective. Can mean giving up goals temporarily. Effective when clarity is needed before resolution.

Best used when

The issue is trivial, or when more time is genuinely needed to respond well.

Accommodating

Places others' needs above personal goals. Values harmony. Rarely leaves a conflict fully satisfied, but preserves the relationship.

Best used when

Harmony matters more than the outcome, or to allow the other person to learn.

Compromising

Both sides give something to gain something. The middle ground between two positions. A practical fallback when collaboration isn't possible.

Best used when

Both parties are flexible and satisfied with a partial outcome.

"No style is superior. The most relationship-ready people are those who know which style to deploy — and when. Understanding your default is the first step to becoming that person."

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Assessment Three·  Personality Profile

The NFFPS-30 —
Who you are at your core.

The NovoPsych Five Factor Personality Scale – 30 (NFFPS-30; Buchanan & Hegarty, 2023) measures the five foundational dimensions of personality — the traits that shape how you think, feel, and engage with the world long before a relationship even begins. Where the ASQ-SF tells us how you bond and the Conflict Assessment tells us how you cope, the NFFPS-30 tells us who you fundamentally are.

Each of the five factors is assessed across six specific facets, giving your matchmaker a layered, precise picture of your personality — not a horoscope, but a clinically grounded profile built to inform genuine compatibility.

Openness

The degree to which you are creative and imaginative versus conventional and grounded in the practical.

Six facets

Imagination · Artistic interests · Emotionality · Adventurousness · Intellect · Liberalism

Conscientiousness

Your capacity to manage impulses, stay organised, and follow through — the engine of reliability in relationships.

Six facets

Self-efficacy · Orderliness · Dutifulness · Achievement striving · Self-discipline · Cautiousness

Extraversion

The extent to which you draw energy from the external world — how outgoing, expressive, and socially engaged you naturally are.

Six facets

Friendliness · Gregariousness · Assertiveness · Activity level · Excitement seeking · Cheerfulness

Agreeableness

Your orientation toward social harmony, cooperation, and non-confrontation — how you balance your needs with others'.

Six facets

Trust · Morality · Altruism · Cooperation · Modesty · Sympathy

Neuroticism

The degree to which you experience negative emotions — how your nervous system responds to stress, uncertainty, and relational pressure.

Six facets

Anxiety · Anger · Depression · Self-consciousness · Immoderation · Vulnerability

Why five factors aren't enough

A broad trait like Extraversion could mean you're sociable, happy, energetic, or dominant — or all of these. Without facet-level precision, the label tells us very little. The NFFPS-30 breaks each factor into six specific facets, so we understand not just that you're extroverted, but how — and what that means for a match.

Personality predicts life outcomes

Research demonstrates that personality traits have predictive validity across relationships, well-being, income, and educational attainment in nationwide samples (Roberts et al., 2007; Kajonius & Carlander, 2017). Traits are notably stable — developing predictably throughout life (Briley & Tucker-Drob, 2014), making them one of the most reliable foundations for long-term compatibility.

The framework

The NFFPS-30 is built on the Five Factor Model (FFM) — the most widely used framework in personality science — measuring the five traits often known by the acronym OCEAN: Openness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism.

A spotlight on FFM in clinical settings has grown significantly since its incorporation into the DSM-5. Many psychologists today agree that the FFM framework can serve as a foundation for integrating both common and atypical personality traits — making it as relevant in everyday relationship contexts as it is in clinical formulation (Markon, Krueger, & Watson, 2005).

"Personality traits are growing in importance within the context of individualism in modern society — and they are among the most stable, reliable predictors of long-term relationship satisfaction we have."

Skirbekk & Blekesaune, 2014 · Briley & Tucker-Drob, 2014

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The complete picture

Three assessments.
One profile of how you love.

Your attachment style tells us how you connect. Your conflict style tells us how you cope. Your personality profile tells us who you are. Together, three clinically grounded assessments give your matchmaker the most complete intelligence available — so every introduction is made with precision, not guesswork.

ASQ-SF
Attachment Style
TKM
Conflict Style
NFFPS-30
Personality Profile