Understanding you
is how we find your person.
Before we make a single introduction, we invest in something most matchmakers skip entirely — a deep, evidence-based understanding of who you are in relationships.
Jump to an assessment
How you bond, connect, and seek closeness — your foundational relational blueprint.
↓ Assessment TwoHow you respond when relationships face friction — your default conflict strategy.
↓ Assessment ThreeWho you are at the level of core personality — the OCEAN five factor model in depth.
↓Chemistry is common.
Compatibility is rare.
Most people can feel a spark. What's harder to find is someone whose attachment patterns, conflict responses, and relational needs genuinely align with yours — not just on paper, but in the quiet moments when relationships are actually tested.
Our assessment suite gives us — and you — the insight to make introductions that go beyond surface-level connection.
Three clinically validated
frameworks.
We use three of the most rigorously validated tools available in relationship science — one mapping how you bond, one mapping how you navigate conflict, and one revealing who you are at the level of core personality. Together they form a profile of you that no questionnaire about hobbies and height ever could.
This is the foundation every match we make is built on.
The ASQ-SF —
How you bond.
The Attachment Style Questionnaire – Short Form (ASQ-SF) is one of the most psychometrically sound attachment measures available (Pollard et al., 2023). It maps your attachment profile across two core dimensions and five detailed subscales — not as a fixed label, but as a nuanced spectrum of how you connect with the people who matter to you.
Unlike categorical personality tests, the ASQ-SF recognises that attachment is dimensional. You don't simply "have" an attachment style — you sit somewhere along a continuum, and understanding exactly where changes how you date.
"Attachment patterns are significantly associated with depression, anxiety, personality, and interpersonal difficulties — making assessment not just interesting, but actionable."
The five dimensions
Each subscale reveals a specific layer of how you relate:
Comfort with Closeness
How you respond as emotional and psychological intimacy deepens in a relationship.
Relationship Priority
Where relationships genuinely sit in the hierarchy of your life and attention.
Preoccupation
Whether your focus on relationships tends toward healthy engagement or anxious over-monitoring.
Need for Approval
The degree to which you rely on a partner's validation to feel safe and secure.
Interpersonal Confidence
Your baseline sense of security when entering and deepening new connections.
The two primary patterns
All five dimensions sit within two overarching attachment orientations:
Dimension One
Anxious Attachment
Hyperactivating strategies — pursuing connection intensely, often at cost to yourself.
- Excessive need for reassurance
- Fear of abandonment drives decisions
- Preoccupation with relationship status
- Approval-seeking as default mode
Dimension Two
Avoidant Attachment
Deactivating strategies — protecting yourself by keeping others at distance.
- Discomfort with emotional closeness
- Defensive self-reliance
- Relationships feel secondary
- Withdrawal when intimacy deepens
Not a personality quiz.
A clinical-grade tool.
The ASQ-SF was identified in a comprehensive systematic review as one of the most robust and psychometrically sound measures available for attachment assessment (Pollard et al., 2023). Its deliberately broad language extends beyond romantic relationships, making it valid across all interpersonal contexts — including therapeutic relationships, family dynamics, and peer interactions (Karantzas et al., 2010; Mikulincer & Shaver, 2016).
Attachment research consistently shows that your patterns directly influence emotion regulation, interpersonal schemas, and how you seek or avoid support — the mechanisms that determine whether a relationship thrives or stalls (Malik et al., 2015).
measured
for precision
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assessed
The Conflict Management
Assessment — How you cope.
Every relationship will face friction. The question isn't whether conflict will arise — it's whether you and your partner have the tools to move through it without fracturing what you've built. Based on the Thomas-Kilmann Model and adapted by Reginald Adkins, Ph.D. (Elemental Truths), this assessment identifies your dominant conflict style across five evidence-based dimensions.
Your matchmaker uses this to identify not just who you're compatible with — but whose conflict approach complements rather than collides with yours.
Competing
Assertive and goal-driven. Prioritises position over relationship. Most effective when decisive action is required or certainty is high.
Best used whenA quick decision is critical, or when you are certain of the right course of action.
Collaborating
Assertive and cooperative in equal measure. Treats conflict as an opportunity. Depends on a high degree of mutual trust.
Best used whenEveryone's concerns matter equally and there is genuine trust between all parties.
Avoiding
Steps back to gain perspective. Can mean giving up goals temporarily. Effective when clarity is needed before resolution.
Best used whenThe issue is trivial, or when more time is genuinely needed to respond well.
Accommodating
Places others' needs above personal goals. Values harmony. Rarely leaves a conflict fully satisfied, but preserves the relationship.
Best used whenHarmony matters more than the outcome, or to allow the other person to learn.
Compromising
Both sides give something to gain something. The middle ground between two positions. A practical fallback when collaboration isn't possible.
Best used whenBoth parties are flexible and satisfied with a partial outcome.
"No style is superior. The most relationship-ready people are those who know which style to deploy — and when. Understanding your default is the first step to becoming that person."
The NFFPS-30 —
Who you are at your core.
The NovoPsych Five Factor Personality Scale – 30 (NFFPS-30; Buchanan & Hegarty, 2023) measures the five foundational dimensions of personality — the traits that shape how you think, feel, and engage with the world long before a relationship even begins. Where the ASQ-SF tells us how you bond and the Conflict Assessment tells us how you cope, the NFFPS-30 tells us who you fundamentally are.
Each of the five factors is assessed across six specific facets, giving your matchmaker a layered, precise picture of your personality — not a horoscope, but a clinically grounded profile built to inform genuine compatibility.
Openness
The degree to which you are creative and imaginative versus conventional and grounded in the practical.
Six facetsImagination · Artistic interests · Emotionality · Adventurousness · Intellect · Liberalism
Conscientiousness
Your capacity to manage impulses, stay organised, and follow through — the engine of reliability in relationships.
Six facetsSelf-efficacy · Orderliness · Dutifulness · Achievement striving · Self-discipline · Cautiousness
Extraversion
The extent to which you draw energy from the external world — how outgoing, expressive, and socially engaged you naturally are.
Six facetsFriendliness · Gregariousness · Assertiveness · Activity level · Excitement seeking · Cheerfulness
Agreeableness
Your orientation toward social harmony, cooperation, and non-confrontation — how you balance your needs with others'.
Six facetsTrust · Morality · Altruism · Cooperation · Modesty · Sympathy
Neuroticism
The degree to which you experience negative emotions — how your nervous system responds to stress, uncertainty, and relational pressure.
Six facetsAnxiety · Anger · Depression · Self-consciousness · Immoderation · Vulnerability
Why five factors aren't enough
A broad trait like Extraversion could mean you're sociable, happy, energetic, or dominant — or all of these. Without facet-level precision, the label tells us very little. The NFFPS-30 breaks each factor into six specific facets, so we understand not just that you're extroverted, but how — and what that means for a match.
Personality predicts life outcomes
Research demonstrates that personality traits have predictive validity across relationships, well-being, income, and educational attainment in nationwide samples (Roberts et al., 2007; Kajonius & Carlander, 2017). Traits are notably stable — developing predictably throughout life (Briley & Tucker-Drob, 2014), making them one of the most reliable foundations for long-term compatibility.
The framework
The NFFPS-30 is built on the Five Factor Model (FFM) — the most widely used framework in personality science — measuring the five traits often known by the acronym OCEAN: Openness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism.
A spotlight on FFM in clinical settings has grown significantly since its incorporation into the DSM-5. Many psychologists today agree that the FFM framework can serve as a foundation for integrating both common and atypical personality traits — making it as relevant in everyday relationship contexts as it is in clinical formulation (Markon, Krueger, & Watson, 2005).
"Personality traits are growing in importance within the context of individualism in modern society — and they are among the most stable, reliable predictors of long-term relationship satisfaction we have."
Skirbekk & Blekesaune, 2014 · Briley & Tucker-Drob, 2014
Three assessments.
One profile of how you love.
Your attachment style tells us how you connect. Your conflict style tells us how you cope. Your personality profile tells us who you are. Together, three clinically grounded assessments give your matchmaker the most complete intelligence available — so every introduction is made with precision, not guesswork.